Take Another to Lunch
I've taken another to lunch, I've actually done it a couple of times with mixed results. In one instance my lunch companion and I walked away with a better understanding of one another's perspective, it resulted in a more enlightened conversation and team work. No longer was there a sense of division. In another instance, it didn't go so well. While in my opinion I felt we had developed a shared understanding and respect of one another's perspective, the reality is, the meeting fueled further division. My name, and my perspective were tarnished, belittled, and discredited. It was and is an extremely painful experience, I was trying to be nice, get to know people, and do a good job. Come to find out, this individual and my boss shared opinions and perspectives about me. They communicate with each other that shared discontent (about my views) regularly. It makes it very hard to go to work, there's now a negative aura the encircles our communications. It's tou...